I'm pretty sure women were born with the marriage gene. I mean television has made entire shows based on planning weddings or even just picking the right dress. There is an appeal there ... it's what we want, it's almost what we strive for, it's something that we really do think about as children. So why not cash in on this marriage concept? Good call, television.
Though this gene is something we all have; it's pretty malleable. It will twist and turn and transform itself to fit the beliefs of the guy we are currently with. I guess that's what love will do. Not only is it blind, it will change your DNA.
I've seen some smart women who know what they want from their careers and achieve them with flying colours, suddenly claim that "marriage - a ring and a white dress - isn't needed to prove their commitment." Really? When the hell did that happen?
It's a proven fact that upon meeting a guy that you have a physical connection with, you automatically think of how they'd feel as a husband and a father. This might seem scary and some might deny this, but that gene is so strong, it will flash pictures in your head of this guy wearing a tuxedo and no baseball cap, of him hammering nails into your new home so you can hang your honeymoon photos, of him gallantly telling you to go back to sleep and that he'll get up to give the baby her bottle, of him ... well, you get it.We do this. Women do this. When you meet a guy, you wonder if he's the one.
So, why does this change? The older you get, the less time you really need (or want) to get engaged. Women who are still dating in their thirties (and even late twenties) typically don't want to spend years being with someone without a ring or a bended knee in sight. This isn't high school anymore where you have years of university and grad school ahead of you to take things slow. Let's face it, unless you want your kids calling you grandma, after a certain age, the whole courtship process needs to be sped up just a touch. Of course, I'm making a general statement here which shouldn't be applied to all women; just the ones who want to husband and kids.
I don't know. Sometimes I feel like when women reach a certain age, they will make concessions if it means no more nights of take-out alone on the couch followed by a lonely shower and cuddling with your body pillow. So finding a man who might not be ready for marriage or the kids or the full-blown commitment might do if it means not having to be alone.
Maybe it's I Do for now. Or I Do change my underlying beliefs of what it means to make a commitment because I don't want you to go away. I Do tolerate your fence sitting because if it's not broke why fix it? When did women start saying I Don't to what they've wanted since they were little girls? When do women start to say I Do to themselves?
