I've made a decision that I want my attitude towards (certain) people to be snark free.
My intentions were so good and I did so well. On Monday. Tuesday, well, not so much. It's not my fault though. These particular people beg to be judged with their ridickalus behaviours. Or they'll open their mouth to talk and then, bam! ... they say something so idiotic and self-centred that my eyes can't help but to check out the tops of my eyelids for a split second.
I think I need to tweak my initial decision a little. Instead of looking for a snark-free zone, I will work on not carrying any ill-feelings towards a person into the following day.
Please don't look at me like I'm some kind of martyr. My reasons are purely selfish. In all honesty, it takes so much more energy on my part when someone annoys me. Because when I'm annoyed by stupid people, this is what happens:
1) I think about it non-stop.
2) I complain about it non-stop.
3) I avoid that person so that I don't catch their stupidness.
4) I put on my bitch face.
That takes up too much of my precious time. And I shouldn't let stupid people bring me down.
When I'm not annoyed by stupid people, even though they are still being stupid, this is what happens:
1) I smile.
2) I move on.
I want to smile more. I don't want to be bogged down by other people's behaviours. It shouldn't affect me as much as I've let it in the past. I choose to be oblivious to their "me" attitudes.
Now my only other strategy is to steer any conversations away from the senseless gossip that I've thrived on in the past. And trust me that is easier said than done.
Let's see how I do today.
Nobody gonna slow me down ... I got to keep on moving.
7 hours ago
16 comments:
I think we need to see a pic of this "bitch face" of which you speak.
Avoiding stupid and gossip is a tall order (I work to do both myself) but you are right on, we're better for it.
Look at you quoting the lyrics of a Mathew Wilder song...
Smile :)
There's a fine line between not letting the stupid people get to you and becoming a pushover. Don't lose who you are at the core. (Coming from a snark master, of course!)
I totally hear you on this one...I'm constantly letting other people's stupid behaviours and actions affect (effect? I always confuse those two...) my own attitude. I've gotten better, though. It's an art, I tell you.
OMG ditto! This is something that I am working on too. I am sincerely trying to be a more humble person and not let the small stuff that in reality has little to do with me, get to me. It's a bitch of a change to make. Why did I have to start dating an awesome guy who makes me want to be a better person? It's so much easier to be a bitch :)
Now that song is stuck in my head. I think I might thank you for that, though.
Whatever you have to do to let go of other people's stupidity, just do it. For me, it is sometimes (ok, fairly often) snarky humor (great outlet which enables me to not think of it anymore), and other times I just smile & zone out (great way to not let it in, in the first place).
What ever you need to do to move on.
I wish we worked together.
We'd both be smiling alot, and then giggling to one another totally knowing what that smile means.
Did we just have a sleepover?
Gossip i suppose is inevitable and I too sometimes can get an attitude towards people, but I'm quickly learning that being nice and smiling gets you a lot further... good luck ;)
I think a family member of mine DEFINES self-centered. You really have to meet him to revise your definition. Or not.
I don't argue with stupid people ... first they drag you down to their level and then they beat you with experience!
What constitutes "stupid people"?
I like this mindset of yours and hope it's something you can do throughout the year.
I tend to avoid stupid people as I am physically unable to restrain myself from calling them on it. It's true, I am not a very liked person. ;)
I pick days where I tell myself I'm over the moon. I smile and make nice conversations to people in the hope that something good rubs off long-term on me. I know what you mean about easier said that done. You can smile on the inside, or laugh at their stupidity.
I hate people so avoidance is pretty much my thing.
I am a stupid people. Hey, if you can't beat 'em- join 'em.
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